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Therese' Story~Love Shouldn't Hurt!
RIGHT BETWEEN THE EYES!Yes...he shot me right between the eyes.
{{Song = Amazing by: Janelle Reinhart}}
~Welcome!~
       ~Improving our world,
       only with YOUR help,
        one mind at a time
              Starting with you.... 
  
 
BE the CHANGE
you wish to see in our World...
   ~{gandhi}~
I'm making MY change by asking YOU to take just a few minutes of your time to help me:
 
 

                 ~BREAK THE SILENCE!~
~STOP THE VIOLENCE!~

     In our World, Violence within family units, between loved one's (intimate partner violence, ,child abuse and elder abuse) AND interpersonal violence
(teenagers/dating abuse/rape) has reached
EPIDEMIC proportions!
In 2010, in SC alone, 44 deaths directly related to Domestic Violence were reported!
If you know someone IN trouble NOW & For ANY true emergencies, of course, call 911 or your local police!
~ We NEED YOUR Help!~
~We can't do it alone.~
PLEASE HELP US IN ENDING ALL TYPES OF VIOLENCE!
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 August 2014 ~ Post and Courier Newspaper Article Series entitled
My story is part IV = Four Till Death Do Us Part
talks about domestic violence and is a great article series relating how badly not only victims but their families and friends are affected.
Please read, watch, follow and share ~ Jennifer has written a series for our local newspaper called Till Death Do Us Part and it is currently running in print here in SC. It's also posted as a series on their website. I'd appreciate any and all feedback to Jennifer on the series. THANK YOU ALL! ☮ & ღ
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To anyone experiencing any type of abuse:  "Don't ask yourself if you love them... ask yourself if you TRUST them. If the answer is No, then #1 Make a safety plan and follow it to the letter! #2 Get away and stay away! You are worth far more than that type of treatment! I did NOT make a safety plan...that is why I have a bullet in my head! Most do not survive!"

Common Myth
If it were that bad, She would just leave.
FACT: Neuroscientists are starting to find that repeated abuse actually changes the brain. Intimate partner violence can affect the way a woman thinks, making her more prone to being withdrawn, forgetful, and so stuck in negative thinking that she can't see how a situation can improve.
Me Before the Shooting (Just below)
the Post and Courier
the day after the shooting!
  I created this site to bring to the general public's AWARENESS that Interpersonal Violence and Sexual Assault (of which domestic violence is ONE) has become an epidemic in our society!

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The National Domestic Violence Hotline  (www.thehotline.org) is a powerful weapon in the fight against abuse. It is anonymous & untraceable!  
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship whether it be male/female, young/old (this includes teenagers!),
call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
This number can and will link you to the nearest domestic violence center in your area. The first step is picking up the phone and calling for help!  KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
Please, I beg of you, take that first step! (Further resources listed at bottom of this page)
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Patrick Stewart is one of DV's strongest supporters as he himself is a product of a DV filled homelife since his birth! 
"The truth is that domestic violence and violence against women touch many of us. This violence is not a private matter. Behind closed doors it is shielded and hidden and it only intensifies. It is protected by silence – everyone's silence. Violence against women is learned. Each of us must examine - and change - the ways in which our own behavior might contribute to, enable, ignore or excuse all such forms of violence. I promise to do so, and to invite other men and allies to do the same." - Patrick Stewart

 
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HEALING PLACE HOME has made a short, yet poignant video about Domestic Violence, please take just 1 minute and 43 seconds of your time to watch this...
        ~Domestic Violence ~ 
       ~  CYCLES OF ABUSE ~
   **Research shows that there are three (3) stages or cycles of abuse: (i) Child Abuse then Teen Violence/Abuse linked to family, relationship or peer cruelty; (ii) the middle-aged population faced with spousal or perhaps work-related aggression, and finally (iii) the elderly, a highly vulnerable population largely dependent upon care from others
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Domestic violence is defined as a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviors (manipulation) and tactics used by one person over another to gain power and control. This may include , financial abuse, emotional, sexual, and physical abuse. (Physical abuse is the only acknowledged form of abuse currently. 

Domestic and Interpersonal violence cross all ethnic, racial and socio-economic lines. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together or separated. Emotional / psychological abuse can be extremely damaging, and some report that it’s worse than physical abuse. (I agree completely with this last statement having been a victim of both from the same man... the emotional and verbal abuse I"m still healing from over 13 years worth whereas the physical violence stopped very early on in our relationship because I told him I wasn't going to stand around and be hit! Of course, little did I realize what the end result {12 years later} would be! Hindsight is EVER 20/20!)
Family is not a name for a group of people, but the QUALITY of relationships between them. Relationships grounded in mutual Love, Trust, Caring and Forgiveness, in all the ups and downs of life. Look closely, - who is really your family, and who in truth are just strangers and abusers in for the ride.

 
  On Sunday, February 21, 2010, I was a victim of criminal domestic violence (CDV). In the end, from about five feet away, he pointed a 25 caliber pistol at my face and stated, "If I can't have you, NO ONE CAN!" And then he pulled the trigger and my head exploded!  - He, quite literally, Shot Me Right Between the eyes!  I was told he then walked a few feet away and took his own life! He was NOT a "bad" person when I met him. He was caring and loving and would've given you the shirt off his back!  But he was human and made mistakes. (so did I, but I did NOT deserve to be shot!).  As we grow older, sometimes we make bad choices...and then Life just goes downhill from there!
    IN MAINE JUST LAST YEAR (2011): 
            
 
~CLICK HERE TO SEE Ten (10) Signs that a teenager is suffering from Dating/Verbal abuse~ 
     
  

              "WHAT CAN WE DO?"      You ask?
LEARN and become AWARE, please and thank you!
Become knowledgeable about interpersonal violence and what you can do to help stop it! BE the change you wish to see in our World!
        KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
     Open your eyes AND your mind!  Only with an open and non-judgmental mind; with understanding, acknowledgment AND compassion can WE, as a society, begin to accept the FACT that domestic violence and abuse happens to men, women and children (as well as elderly), of all colors and creeds, all professions and family structures, regardless of socio-economic factors (money/status), age, marital status or sexual orientation. 
   ~ STOP JUDGING ~ 
    ~START LOVING~  
These numbers are over a decade old: One in four women (25%) has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime (this is just the reported cases of DOMESTIC PHYSICAL violence to WOMEN!) (The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and The National Institute of Justice, Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence, July 2000. The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, 1999).
CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
(At home, in school, everywhere ~ from Parents, Teachers, everyone)
If children live with criticism,
they learn to condemn.
(Bullying included!)
If children live with hostility,
they learn to fight.        
If children live with ridicule,
they learn to be shy.       
If children live with shame,
they learn to feel guilty,
If children live with tolerance,
they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement,
they learn confidence.
If children live with praise,
they learn to appreciate.
If children live with fairness,
they learn justice.
If children live with security,
they learn to have faith.
If children live with approval,
they learn to like themselves.
If children live with acceptance and friendship,
They learn to find LOVE in the world.  


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Remember knowledge is power!
If something doesn't "feel" right in your relationship, then it's NOT.
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Parental Alienation Awareness Organization
http://paawareness.org/
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One of the most damaging personality disorders is the narcissist! 
Both Men AND Women can become narcissists! 
"I was married to a Narcissist for 16 years. 
It's the closest thing there is to HELL ON EARTH"

from the Narcissism Book of Quotes  (read more about narcissist by clicking the link above.)


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AVAILABLE RESOURCES
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Rape Abuse and Incest victims can contact:
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network
(800) 656-4673  (HOPE)
             www.RAINN.org
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This site was formerly Family Violence Prevention Fund which includes children and other family members (elderly included!)
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Things Men can do:
           www.acalltomen.org
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Suicide Prevention is also important, as the abuser generally takes his/her own life after attempting,
if not KILLING the victim(s)! 
(800) 273 - 8255 (TALK)  OR (800) 784 - 2433 (800-SUICIDE)


  Thanks for stopping by!

Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.... {Sri Chinmoy}
"Never mind searching for who you are...search instead for who you aspire to be!" {writer Robert Brault}
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